I get it, I've been there. After ditching the diet your body could potentially change. Whether it's shape or size, your body will be changing over your entire life.
No matter what, you're going to age, metabolism and muscle density may change. This is a fact of life but for many women this can be a MAJOR fear.
So what if we can get to a place where no matter how our bodies change and shift we can feel confident and comfortable?
Is that even possible?
I promise it is...
#1. IDENTIFY IF YOU FEEL PHYSICALLY UNCOMFORTABLE OR MENTALLY UNCOMFORTABLE.
Many women tell me they feel uncomfortable in their body and my first question is: Do you feel physically uncomfortable?
The most common reaction is, "well... no. I actually feel awesome physically I just don't like that I've gained weight". Being mentally uncomfortable is pretty common and something that can be solved without ever needing to lose a pound!
I know that might not be what you wanted to hear, because as dieters we love the prospect of being able to look a certain way AND be completely at peace and free. I hate to break it to you but this is likely not going to happen. Not because you can't be both fit and at peace and not because you can't be both healthy and free. It's only because your vision of what your body should be is probably one that our diet culture has given you as the only way to feel beautiful, worthy and healthy.
It's all such complete rhubarb hulla-balloo!!!
You don't need to be a certain size to be healthy, vibrant, energetic or beautiful. You can be (and are) all those things at any size.
So are you uncomfortable physically or mentally?
#2. Do you love WHO you are?
We tend to separate our bodies from our beings.
If you don't love who you are, you'll never love the packaging you come in.
That's all a body is really. The package or vehicle that let's you be able to live this life you're living. That's it, that's all.
So you must love what the package contains to really see what the packaging is even for!
#3. Get comfortable in the grey area
Dieters see things in black and white. Certain foods are good, certain foods are bad. Certain bodies are good, certain bodies are bad.
This is a sure fire way to feel like you've failed when things aren't "perfect".
So to feel more at ease in your body you must understand that things will be good, bad, ugly and amazing all at once.
You may love the look of your arms, dislike your stomach, being excited about that new job you got AND terrified at starting a new job all at the same time. This is OK, this is life.
It's the same with your journey around food and body; you'll be on cloud 9 one day, feeling free in your food choices, feel bloated AND be stressed about if you're doing this right all at once. It's ok, it's a journey, learn to ebb and flow.