3 Ways to feel good in a body you don't love YET!

I get it, I've been there. After ditching the diet your body could potentially change. Whether it's shape or size, your body will be changing over your entire life.

No matter what, you're going to age, metabolism and muscle density may change. This is a fact of life but for many women this can be a MAJOR fear. 

So what if we can get to a place where no matter how our bodies change and shift we can feel confident and comfortable?

Is that even possible?

I promise it is...


Many women tell me they feel uncomfortable in their body and my first question is: Do you feel physically uncomfortable?

The most common reaction is, "well... no. I actually feel awesome physically I just don't like that I've gained weight". Being mentally uncomfortable is pretty common and something that can be solved without ever needing to lose a pound! 

I know that might not be what you wanted to hear, because as dieters we love the prospect of being able to look a certain way AND be completely at peace and free. I hate to break it to you but this is likely not going to happen. Not because you can't be both fit and at peace and not because you can't be both healthy and free. It's only because your vision of what your body should be is probably one that our diet culture has given you as the only way to feel beautiful, worthy and healthy.

It's all such complete rhubarb hulla-balloo!!!

You don't need to be a certain size to be healthy, vibrant, energetic or beautiful. You can be (and are) all those things at any size.

So are you uncomfortable physically or mentally?

#2. Do you love WHO you are?

We tend to separate our bodies from our beings. 

If you don't love who you are, you'll never love the packaging you come in.

That's all a body is really. The package or vehicle that let's you be able to live this life you're living. That's it, that's all. 

So you must love what the package contains to really see what the packaging is even for!

#3. Get comfortable in the grey area

Dieters see things in black and white. Certain foods are good, certain foods are bad. Certain bodies are good, certain bodies are bad. 

This is a sure fire way to feel like you've failed when things aren't "perfect".

So to feel more at ease in your body you must understand that things will be good, bad, ugly and amazing all at once.

You may love the look of your arms, dislike your stomach, being excited about that new job you got AND terrified at starting a new job all at the same time. This is OK, this is life.

It's the same with your journey around food and body; you'll be on cloud 9 one day, feeling free in your food choices, feel bloated AND be stressed about if you're doing this right all at once. It's ok, it's a journey, learn to ebb and flow.



Getting Ready for a Vacation: Dieting vs Body Freedom

Tomorrow I am off to Hawaii on my honeymoon. The last couple weeks have really got me thinking about what life was like when I was a dieter. I remember a few holidays in particular where the couple months leading up to them I was a wild woman, buying what I needed, prepping and planning, dreaming and wondering where my body would be at when the day arrived.

I would get excited about my new bikini because I would see it on that body that I was going to get before we left on the trip. 

Nothing was as it should have been. A vacation is for relaxation and letting loose but for me it was a time of stress, pressure and the desire of perfection. I would be preparing for lift off for at LEAST 2 months in advance, this included a new extreme workout routine, a meal plan, facials, pedis, manis, the works!

Things have changed a lot since those days and I would like to show you how a vacation can evolve from a stressful endeavour to a time of freedom and joy just by changing my relationship with food and my body.

People often think food is just food, if you diet or if you don't all that changes is the way you eat. This isn't at all accurate, it truly changes the way you live.

When you change your relationship with food you innately change your relationship with your body, your mind and your soul. When you realize that dieting isn't working for your body or your life (and you will) and you become an intuitive eater EVERY life experience changes.

Getting ready for a trip while dieting:

+ 2 months prior start a new diet, buy the diet book, get the meal plan printed out, make a grocery list, get the groceries, meal prep for three hours every Sunday

+ Eat your prescribed meals each day (can anyone say HUNGRY??)

+ Get a spray tan a few days before you leave

+ Shop for the perfect bathing suit that is going to flatter the right areas and hide other areas

+ Weigh yourself daily to see if that diet is working

+ Start stressing the week before you leave because that number isn't moving like you'd hoped it would

+ Restrict your food intake even more a little bit before you leave for your trip

If this doesn't sound so bad to you think of the ramifications:

+ You'll likely binge eat during your trip, you'll be preoccupied with food during your trip and NOT living in the moment

+ Your metabolism is likely lowered so the food that you do consume on the vacation will be stored because your poor body is starving for nutrients and it's not sure if you'll be in a famine state again in the near future

Getting ready for a trip as an intuitive eater:

+ do things exactly the same as you did yesterday

+ Fly to destination

+ Smile and enjoy this awesome new location!

Living like this will bring you:

+ Peace

+ Health

+ Sanity!!

Ready to stop the madness and ditch the diet once and for all?

Get into our FREE 5 Day Intuitive Eating Challenge NOW!

Wanting to lose weight isn't "bad".

The body positive community can often be judgemental of those wanting to lose weight and you may have felt bad about wanting to lose weight in the past but you shouldn't.

It's not shameful to want to lose weight, it's normal in our society to be thinking this way.

The reason that body positivity activists and leaders express that wanting to lose weight is a negative thing is because they have reached a mindset shift that makes things look really different.

Wanting to lose weight is not bad, ever, but when you begin a journey towards Intuitive Eating and body positivity to do gain some insights that may make you think differently. 

The goal of weight loss is common but it isn't always all that helpful. It is not shameful to want it but first you must really understand it. We have been told since the '70s that we can control our weight; that if we're fat it means we are lazy, indulgent and have no will power and if we'er thin then we are active, ambitious and strong. This is just not the case. We cannot really control our weight. 

When you diet you may see some initial weight loss but in losing this weight (through dieting) you have lowered your metabolism and the weight begins to creep back on. This is where our lack of control comes in. We cannot change our metabolism, genetics or inner workings of our body and this is what determines our weight (along with a healthy relationship with food and exercise).

Dieting gives us a sense of control but it is false. This is something to consider when working towards a weight loss goal.

Another reason why body positive people don't think you should be trying to lose weight is because if you go into Intuitive Eating or body positivity with a weight loss goal it will not work. Intuitive Eating can absolutely be turned into just yet another diet if you begin it in the dieting mindset (and working to lose weight IS a dieting mindset). 

Wanting this weight loss is not bad but it is interesting to explore WHY you want it.

What is the true motivator behind your weight loss. Is it looks, health, judgement of others, that inner critic's voice never leaving you alone. What is the purpose of this weight loss. 

If health is the reason then I do want you to reconsider what healthy means. Losing weight doesn't necessarily mean you are healthier just like gaining weight doesn't mean you are less healthy. If health is your motivation, repairing your relationship with food and movement will bring you lasting health benefits that weight loss just cannot give you.

Weight loss is a losing battle. It's kind of like if you're desperate to get a date. When you are pining for a man to take you out, it rarely ever goes well. It is when you are living your life for yourself, fulfilled without NEEDING a relationship and loving what you do that a partner can come along and see your true amazingness. Of course they want to go out with you! Who wouldn't?

It's kind of like that. Wanting to lose weight (especially when you feel that you won't be happy without it), is a struggle. You struggle to eat perfectly, which of course leads to a binge, which then leads to guilt and shame, which then leads to yet another strict diet. Wanting to lose weight will generally result in a yo-yo effect that is VERY unhealthy for your body.

When you dive into Intuitive Eating with your weight on the back burner you can truly start to discover who you are without the constant pursuit of weight loss. This person will be more balanced, happier and most of all healthier! Getting back in tune with your body's signals will lead you to balanced and consistent health. But if you go at this with the wish to lose weight, it won't work. This is because you'll inevitably start denying your body the fuel that it needs in order to shave off a few more pounds and you'll get stuck back into that deadly dieting cycle.

A true immersion in Intuitive Eating and body positivity will bring to light the fact that your body knows how to regulate itself. When you have healthy practices around food and movement your body will settle into it's set weight (this is the weight your body is most comfortable living at). 

It's okay to want to lose weight but if you're working towards ditching the diet you will find this desire become less and less prominent in your life. This can be a scary thought but just think what could come from this: freedom from self hate and the dieting mindset, a real feeling of inner peace and self love and a healthy, balanced life you actually enjoy!

If you're ready to move forward, even if you are still wanting to lose weight, save your seat in our free group coaching session coming up!

What is Diet Culture?

Diet culture is the belief that fat is bad and thin is good. The idea that if you eat kale you're "good" and if you eat cake you're "bad".

This is normal. Dieting is the norm. But this ain't right.

The good news we CAN get out of this dieting mindset.

Start by joining our free goal setting challenge today!